Thanks for the kind words but I think you may have misunderstood me. I am talking about occasionally snapping at my daughter, which all parents do when they are tired etc. Maybe I didnt get it across enough in this piece, but i strongly believe in accountability and modelling accountability to our kids. I’m not making excuses. Instead I’m not bottling up my anger and panicking I’m abusive like my mom, as that leads to poor mental health and then I struggle to be a good mom. I’m acknowledging I’m angry, maybe because I’m tired or stressed or whatever. I’m apologising. I’m working out what the anger is telling me. Often it’s telling me I need a break. I think it’s impossible to never snap at our kids but I 100% agree we are responsible for our behaviour. I think by snapping but then apologising and regulating our emotions is a good example to our kids of how to cope with strong emotions. We all snap at people. We’re a bit short sometimes. I think that’s very different to what my mom did which was verbally abuse me and frighten me. I wrote this to comfort other mothers who struggle with mom guilt like me. That they don’t feel anger because they are monsters. They feel it because they are human. I had hoped I got across that it’s not ok to push your issues on your kids but maybe I need to read through this again and make sure I’m being clear.