I’m an ISFJ (and an ENFP fan girl) and I found this really useful for myself. I struggle with aggressive people outside of my job. I work in mental health and I can deal with aggressive service users as I understand they’re unwell, afraid, frustrated etc. But outside of work I find aggression so difficult. I think it’s because unlike with service users, I can’t understand why the other person is aggressive. I’ll be taking your advice on board. Thanks for writing.