Having kids is so hard. The only thing that keeps me going is the fact that I want my daughter so much. I’ve wanted kids for so long and so much that it physically hurt sometimes. For someone who doesn’t want kids it’s so unfair to make them feel bad for that. I agree with you that it’s selfish to bring kids into the world that are unwanted. Nobody is more or less of a woman for having or not having kids. I’m tired of society thinking having kids is our number one purpose in life. I love being a mom, but it’s not all I am. I am of value outside of being a mom.